Marathon...

"Marathon...a marathon. Your love making's like a marathon." (Click on link, and click #11, Marathon feat. Floetry)

DAMMMMMNNNNNNNN! When I first heard this song, I'm not even gonna lie, I needed a towel! "There's no need for batteries, once you've turned on your light..." GOSH! Shoulders hunched and a deep frown on my face, I'm in deep thought. Reminiscing about the last time I suited up for the long run with my significant other. Thinking about it being the equivalent of a marathon, "on and on". Hmmmmm....Wow. Yeah, that was nice. And yeah, when he did that. And I said...oh yeah (nodding my head).
Great metaphor Raheem DeVaughn! No 50 yard dash over here! A cross country-keep going until your body gives out....your chest rises and fall, your lungs swell and your body weakens. The end is near, but you're giving it your all so that the both of you can make it there together. We're on the same team, I remind myself! Don't be selfish!
Finally, the finish line tape rips across my chest. I get goose bumps. I fall into a trance and we look at each other, still panting...but our breathing slows down, and we smile as contenders at the same race. The excitement subdues into a calm and peaceful rest. I think I got there before he did! Which is good, isn't it ladies? : )

A Retired Jersey

You know I've pondered on writing about the dynamics of my personal relationship with a promising young lad that shall remain anonymous. It's like no other relationship I've ever encountered or even heard of. But instead of going on and on about this amazing man with an intriguing mind and fun sense of humor, I'll take the low road and speak to those who haven't found a light of fire since a Danielle Steel novel!

I have...like every woman you know, portrayed in a Lifetime movie, or featured in a women's magazine...been dogged out, played out, & taken for granted! But, unlike most women, I've never given up on love. Call me Charlotte! Yeah, I've learned vital lessons, and tucked these new experiences under my belt. But I'll be damned if I'll let those tough times turn me into a jaded & bitter soul. I refuse to sell my soul for a few heartbreaks and broken headboards, so that I can feel like the predator this time, instead of the prey.

Trust me ladies (and gentlemen, if you're out there), if there's anybody who should be the Lil' Kim anthem, it's me! I should be doing unto them, as they did unto me. But I don't have the time to allow my past to have that much control in my future. I've turned over a new leaf with life experiences, and I've slowly realized that the tougher the experience, the wiser you are when you rise above it. The sense of accomplishment after the struggle, overwhelms that pitiful feeling of defeat you once had.

Today, there's this new "arm" candy. He's scrumptuous and delicious in every sense of the word. I look forward to our conversations as well as our inter-actions! : ) He's a great guy and I don't know if I could have said that a couple of years ago about my "then" boo. Maybe. But I know, deep down, I wouldn't have meant it. Secretly, I would have worried and complained about the ill-treatment...But "then" had to happen in order for me to be here and appreciative of "our" moments.

Relationship talk, nowadays, is so taboo. If it doesn't involve dogging the opposite sex, it sounds as though you're speaking a foreign lanugage to those listening. For instance, if I had said, "I'll drink his bath water." My girls may say, "awwww." And then behind my backs, "girl he's gonna dawg the sh*t out of her. Men ain't sh*t!" LOL! It's all good though. I understand and I can even relate to wearing the hopeless romantic jersey. We've all been there and I'm just hoping, with my fingers crossed & my eyes above, that I won't be rocking the "45" no time soon.

Let's Talk About Love...

A while ago one of my best friends asked the question on her blog about true love and soulmates... "maybe I do believe in true love but do I believe in soulmates... I don't know, are they different or are they the same"

I replied the following and thought I would share with my popular audience on love, a four letter word that is completely taboo and may get you a year-to-life death sentence if used inappropriately. Of course we've all had conversations about it, but it's really hard to discuss it honestly with the ones that need to hear it. Once upon a time ago, we heard songs about it. People discussed the ramifications of falling in love, the good and the bad. Everyone could relate the circumstances of their relationships to what was being sung on the airwaves. Now, it's easier to bang up headboards, than to unconditionally give another person your heart. Crazy huh? Anyway, here's my reply to my friend's blog. Feel free to give your opinion on the matter.

The "soulmate" adage is something that I feel is very circumstantial (thanks for that word yesterday, I added it to my book of words). It's not a virus you catch, it's something that if your heart is open to it, then it can happen. However, if your heart is closed, cold, bitter, resistant to change, biased and conditional...then no, you'll never give your "soulmate" a chance to appear or better yet, you'll use him in the wrong capacity (i.e. booty call). A "soulmate" to me is someone that is destined to be your companion on this Earth. He (or she) was divinely created for you and you for him (or her). Even as the two of you crawled in diapers unbeknowst to one another, you were already appointed the place and time to meet in the future. I also believe, that if you missed the date, because you were with Mr. Asshole and he was with Ms. Bitch, there is still a chance for the opportunity to re-present itself. It all depends on your faith and how far you are willing to hold out for real love. We've all had our "booty-calls" and "one, two, three night stands"...and we can tell after 5-minutes into the initial meeting, where it's going. But if he has potential, pull the reins on your ass and hold out. Get to know him...as I have recently learned, be patient! Get to know who he is inside and out. You may be surprised. But nonetheless, you love yourself like you've never loved you before. Take yourself on trips, get spa services, look captivating (as you do anyway) and have this self-confidence (not arrogance), that let's any man know that steps into your path the standards he has to uphold to be with you. Put your foot down, but firmly pull it back when you see it necessary. If you believe it, then you will send an Amber Alert for your soulmate and at the most awkward and opportunistic moment he'll be there. Of course you won't know it. And you'll unintentionally, brush him off as just another guy you've met. But love does conquer all. Like I said before, love will have its way...it will be if your heart is open to it...if it's destined and you're ready for it...His "will" will be done! He's your soulmate and that's solid....no getting around that. Nonetheless, you can not turn a "waist of time" into a "soul-mate". Some people are truly only in your life for a season. If it's the cold, cold, winter with their ass..then by golly turn up the heat, pick your leaves off the ground, and go into 2008 with spring on your mind!